Why Don’t People Like Me?

If you google, “why don’t people like me?” you’ll see a lot of suggestions.

You’re too self-absorbed.

You’re pessimistic.

You offend people.

But this isn’t very helpful.

How Group Therapy Helps You Know What You’re Doing Wrong

In a therapy group, members are invited to interrupt what’s going on and announce when they’re bored, disconnected, checked out, distracted, etc.

They’re also encouraged to say directly when someone does something they don’t like.

Where else can you get this kind of feedback?

Your individual therapist may be worried that you couldn’t handle it if she told you all the times she lost interest in what you were saying.

Your parents might say some of the things you do that they don’t like, but it will be mixed up with their whole history of raising you.

Your partner will complain, but their complaints are also interwoven with every disappointment they’ve experienced in the relationship.

It’s almost impossible to sift through the criticism you receive and find the useful bits.

But in group, it’s right there. It’s happening now, right in front of you.

You might think this is awful, too much to bear.

But group helps with that too.

Everyone’s in the same boat.

We’re all here to learn.

Everyone understands that we’re working on being better human beings.

So you discover you’re stronger than you think.

You can hear people’s honest feedback and grow from it.