For many years I’ve studied and been inspired by the Feldenkrais Method. I recommend it to everyone with any kind of body issue or developmental delay.

You’ll hear a Feldenkrais practitioner say over and over again, “go slowly, do what’s easy.”

Our bodies heal and develop more gracefully if we playfully explore within the range of what is pleasurable and easy, than when we’re tense and straining.

Applying this idea to group therapy, many times people think they need to be a certain way in group. If they’re usually quiet, they try to talk more. If they’re usually talkative, they try to speak less. Someone emotionally expressive might think she needs to be more stoic. Someone who talks in a monotone might try to be more animated.

All this trying takes a lot effort!

In group therapy, you have the opportunity to try to work less, to do what’s easy. If you have a particular trait that irritates people, that’s okay. You can just notice it whenever it manifests, see what it can teach you. You can do what’s easy.