I’m scared of taking up too much space

How much space do you take up?

I mean this in all ways.

Are you a big person physically?

Do you take up a lot of conversational space in a room?

How large is your house and car?

How much emotional space do you take up in the minds and hearts of others?

Some people take up too much space. Others don’t take up enough.

I’ve been thinking about how our relationship with money shows up in the Here-and-Now space of a process group. One theme that emerged during a recent group was the fear of taking up too much space.

The bigger you become, the more likely you are to be envied and despised. It is much easier to hate what we’re jealous of rather than use the jealousy as motivation and inspiration.

But this hate keeps you small.

As part of my work, I’m reading several books about money and looking for principles to explore in the group environment.

Dane Maxwell is a very successful serial entrepreneur and author of Start From Zero. He writes about how jealousy destroys creativity. The way beyond jealousy is curiosity. What can I learn from the person I am jealous of? What qualities do they have that I actually admire?

One fear of taking up space involves the fear of others’ jealousy. There are others.

As I prepare for the third incarnation of the online Deeper in the Here-and-Now workshop, I will be thinking about what keeps us small and how group helps us take up the space that we need.

One thought on “I’m scared of taking up too much space

  1. So well written. Concise and clear.

    On Thu, Sep 17, 2020 at 5:44 PM Group Therapy NJ wrote:

    > Jacob Winkler, LCSW posted: ” How much space do you take up? I mean this > in all ways. Are you a big person physically? Do you take up a lot of > conversational space in a room? How large is your house and car? How much > emotional space do you take up in the minds and ” >

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